The current mandate of self-isolation and social distancing resulting from the coronavirus outbreak is influencing our perceptions of Fear of Missing Out and Fear of Going Out.
Fear Of Missing Out
FOMO affects both teenagers and adults, as they constantly check their smartphones, Instagram updates, Twitter feeds, and Facebook pages.
Before the pandemic, there was a constant fear of not being part of something more exciting or interesting than what we were doing. This led to the creation of “fake” personas that we wanted to present to the world, so others would “like” our posts and want to “follow” us on social media. In addition, the need for instant gratification has become an expected and accepted form of communication. The anticipation of receiving a new phone message or notification fulfills our desire for immediate rewards and makes us feel as if we are important to others.
FOMO is a powerful emotion that affects our social relationships and changes our behavior. Social media has taken on even greater importance in our attempt to stay connected to friends, family, and the rest of the world as we shelter-in-place. It is also a means to stave off boredom and occupy our time as we remain isolated from others.
On the plus side, there are essentially no outside activities to be missing out on! There are no parties, social gatherings, concerts, dance performances, or other forms of culture and entertainment to attend.
We are all united in the quest to remain engaged in the absence of outside stimulation and face-to-face connections. Our new challenge has become keeping up with the onslaught of live virtual dance classes, fitness workouts, interviews, and musical performances that are popping up each day. This is a good problem to have because it involves group activities that don’t create competitiveness or FOMO.
Fear Of Going Out
In layman’s terms, agoraphobia is generally referred to as a fear of going outside (FOGO). This “paralyzing” condition makes it a hardship for people to leave their homes.
FOGO has taken on a whole new meaning during the COVID-19 pandemic. We are constantly bombarded with warnings from the media about staying inside as much as possible to control the spread of the disease. If we venture outside to shop for essential food or supplies, we have to wear uncomfortable masks and gloves to protect ourselves from this microscopic enemy. It is also a significant challenge to remain six feet apart from others as we wait in line and do our shopping. We have also been told to disinfect any items that we purchase, adding another layer of fear and apprehension. If you decide to go outside for a walk or a run, it’s tricky to keep the proper distance from other people. What’s the best time to go out? Is it safe to sit on a park bench? Where can I walk the dog? Endless questions …but few definitive answers.
Overall, going outside for even a brief period of time has become an unpleasant ordeal that we would much rather avoid. This is particularly daunting in large urban areas where it is more difficult to stay away from other people and crowded spaces. One healthcare worker remarked, "If people saw what we are dealing with in the hospitals, they would never go outside again.”
Ironically, the more we worry, the more susceptible we may become to this disease. The constant psychological distress associated with this novel form of coronavirus is wreaking havoc with our immune systems and our sanity.
FOGO in a broad sense is a real phenomenon when it becomes synonymous with a perceived threat. This also ties in with risk perceptions and how vulnerable we feel we are to this disease.
FOMO is actually something we may be longing for as this crisis continues for an undetermined period of time. At this moment, we are missing out on the “normal” lives we took for granted. Having the freedom to go outside whenever we wanted and enjoying the company of others seems like a lifetime ago.
When this critical situation has finally passed, we will be forever changed if we are wise enough to remember that nothing in life is a guarantee.
From Fear of Missing Out to Fear of Going Out
By Alice E. Schluger Ph.D.